Someone Friend Zone Me, Please!

I am writing this post from the comfort of my newly air-conditioned bedroom. The air conditioner was free. It was left in my building probably by someone who didn’t feel like taking it when they moved out. As bad as I needed an air conditioner, especially in the recent heat wave, I dreaded buying one. I didn’t even want to drag the one that was left in my apartment building down the steps because of the physical labor it would require. The type of labor that a male would usually take the burden of. Not that they would need to because women can do anything but let’s be honest it would be nice. I can see it so vividly. I would sit back and give empty instructions all in the name of “helping” while a strapping male did all the work. Too bad this is far from how my new air conditioner came to be.

The real story goes a little like this. I was in my apartment complaining to my friend about how hot it was as she shouted encouraging words at me through the phone to just walk up the steps to get the air conditioner. While on the phone with this aggressively encouraging friend, I marched up the steps, retrieved the bulky appliance and installed it. My fantasy of having a total platonic guy friend take on this task had a 0% chance of happening because I don’t have those, never have.

There have been occasions that I thought “This is it, this guy is going to be my friend!” The excitement was always short lived. Eventually I would be informed that he thinks “we would be good together” or they would try to steal a kiss in a situation that was read totally wrong. Why does this happen to me? Well let’s be honest, I’m awesome (sarcasm lol). Honestly, I think my likes and personality scream more “girlfriend” and not so much “girl friend”. The homegirl that is usually brought around shares common interest as the group. They probably like sports and sneakers. They may be able to hold a debut about who is the best XXL Freshmen Class rapper (it’s Megan Thee Stallion). My interest don’t really lie in these areas, but I have on many occasions held conversations with guys about a bunch of different topics. I know that I can hold a friendly conversation about almost anything for a decent amount of time, so why don’t I have male friends?

Side note: You ever watch a show or movie where a guy and girl are seen together in a scenario that seems romantic. When asked what they were doing together they reply, “We were just talking.” I like to think that sometimes that can actually be the case. Call me naïve.

While reflecting on my lack of friends from the opposite sex I tried to come to some type of definite answer as to why but was unable to. My reflection just led to questions like:

Can a person who is attracted to another really be their friend?

How many platonic opposite sex relationships start out that way?

Can two people who are attracted to one another be friends?

Naturally since this is a world I am unfamiliar with I have many questions. I know these friendships exist, so why don’t I have one?

Do you have friends of the opposite sex? Tell me in the comments how you met, what type of things do you talk about together?

Xoxo,

Sigourneyb